Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Because I Trust My Readers' Opinions...

Okay, folks. B & G Fan has come to the realization of one thing: I'm not Superwoman. The stresses of life are finally starting to take a toll on me and make me feel old way beyond my years.

The bar has become a big issue of late. Working approximately 36 hours in a weekend, I've been lacking sleep during that time. Last weekend, I got a weekend total of 10 hours of sleep. At this point in time, I really don't believe I've gotten caught up yet, and I'm staring at another weekend.

The long bar hours have led to NOTHING getting done around the house. Heaven forbid that anyone else who lives here do anything to lend a hand. I got up Sunday morning to having to do two loads of laundry and taking care of the balancing game on top of the garbage can in the kitchen before I left for work. I'm not asking for all housework to be done while I'm working, but a little help would be nice.

Lack of help around the house leads to arguments between me and the hubby. Things got really ugly the other night with a lot of things being said that didn't help the situation.

To recap: long hours, lack of help with housework, and fighting between me and the hubby.

All this has led to me constantly feeling like I'm going to upchuck, stomach pain, headaches, and the inability to eat much at all. I've lost almost 15 pounds in a week (that puts me at about 135), and I don't know how much longer I can keep this up.

What I need from my readers are suggestions on how to deal with all this stress. I'm not doing well with it on my own, and objective opinions would be welcomed. My family says not to worry about it, but that's easier said than done. I know it's bad when my health starts to suffer.

Thanks in advance to everyone. I'll be interested to see what yinz can suggest to help me out.


bluepitbull said...

Not to worry about it? 15 Lbs in a week is dangerous for anyone. It can take a toll on your liver and your circulatory system.

All family members should be kicking in around the house and with meals.

I abused my body for 20 years in the Army and never had a problem until about three years ago, then it all rushed in to hurt me. Asthma, Hypertension, Sleep apnea, etc.

Take care of yourself because you won't be there to take care of your family. You should go get a checkup as soon as you can and heed the advice of your physician.

Most of all, get some darn sleep!!

Bungalow Bill said...

I wish I knew too. The older I get the more I try to do, and there is never enough time in the day. I feel like I go to sleep and a minute later I am awakened for a new day.

blackandgoldfan said...

Blue: First, thanks for your service to this country. You're appreciated more than you'll ever know.

I'm finding that it's not only my physical well-being that's suffering, but my mental health is also falling by the wayside. All I want to do is be alone, and when I think of everything, I just want to cry.

Sleep...perchance to dream....OF A FRICKIN' VACATION ALONE!!! lol

blackandgoldfan said...

BB: You're absolutely right. There is never enough time. If I slept, I'd probably be able to relate on the waking up thingy. ;)

I just don't know what direction my life is going to go in. I believe that God has a reason for this, but I really wish I knew what the purpose of it was.

Teresa said...

I do believe that all members of the household should be chipping in and helping you around the house. You should not be treated like a slave or a full-time cleaner.

But, don't worry if you don't get all the cleaning done. Hours seem to go by so fast nowadays. Believe me, I know that feeling and I don't even have any kids.

Maybe, less hours at work over the weekend? Space your hours during the week also? Or at least one night during the week? Just a thought.

Amusing Bunni said...

HI B & G! You know we discuss this, and I think you should get more help, you shouldn't even have to ask. I don't know how you stand to work w/ the public, that there is oodles of stress, then you come home and more of the same, no wonder you're sick.

Try to cut down on the hours, and even if you don't feel like eating, drink a can of nutrient shake stuff, you need nourishment. No food, stress and tension can take their toll. I always manage to eat, you're getting very thin. I can't begin to know how busy you are w/ kids, Like Teresa, I don't have any and I can't get 3/4 of what I want to do done. Just "go on strike" and do the minimum the children need. The "adults" can take care of themselves, or not.

blackandgoldfan said...

Teresa: The bar is only open on weekends for now, and it just seems like I get sucked into working long hours because someone calls off or we get a big group in and are understaffed.

The housework thing? I've been bitching about that for a long time and it still hasn't changed. Don't know what to do.

blackandgoldfan said...

BOF: LOL. You know I'm the only adult in the household!

I've had an "enlightening", and now getting a game plan. I appreciate you listening on FB! I love ya, girl!

jadedfellow said...

Not really solution, but a bubble bath can be a mini vacation for the time being.

(Don't get me wrong, I ain't THAT kinda fella, but I hear it helps some.)

Lot's good advice from the folks from above, so if I had solution to offer, listen to your friends, they seem to love you. ;-)

blackandgoldfan said...

jaded: I agree 1000% with the vacation. A friend of mine loves the Outer Banks of North Carolina. Maybe a weekend of solitude in different surroundings is the ticket.

Sorry, but I'm not a bubble bath kinda gal. Even if I was, there would be some crisis here that only I can handle. Usually is.

I love my friends, too. They're very smart, caring people. I'm blessed to know them.

Marianne Sanders said...

Have you considered hiring a house cleaning service? I know it's expensive but I have found it to be invaluable. Even if you only get it every two weeks or once a month - it is a real spirit lifter, believe me. It is SO uplifting and heartening to have the entire house clean all at once! I have been suffering from depression and just having that done has taken a big load off......